What is North Coast Church's views on homosexuality?
1. Any sexual act outside of a marriage between a man and a woman is a sin. The Bible is very clear about this (See Genesis 1:27-28, 1 Corinthians 6 & 7, and Ephesians 5)
2. Acting on homosexual temptations is a sin. Based off of the verses above, the Bible confirms acting on homosexual feelings is a sin. However, being tempted with homosexuality is not, just like any sin. We know that Jesus never sinned, but He was indeed tempted to sin (Matthew 4:1-11 & Hebrews 4:15).
3. The church should be a place where all sinners feel welcome and loved. Even though Jesus was strongly against sinning, he was not against sinners. He hungout with lepers, prostitutes, tax collectors, and various other sinners. Our hope is that North Coast Church loves sinners just like Jesus did.
4. God desires us to choose holiness. Even though Jesus hungout with sinners, he told them to "sin no more." Our goal is that even if our students struggle with homosexuality, they will eventually decide to choose holiness. What this means is they do sexuality God's way (See 1 Corinthians 6 & 7).
What should I do if my child says they are gay?
1. Acknowledge their bravery for telling you something that might be humiliating for them and reinforce that you love them.
2. Tell your child that God really, really, really loves them. Culture thinks God hates gay people. We still haven't found that verse.
3. Don't elevate the sin. Many parents freak out when their child tells them they have homosexual feelings. But if they aren't freaking out over their child lying, cussing, and gossiping, then they are missing the point. Sin is sin and it all must be corrected.
4. Point them toward the truth. The truth is acting on homosexuality is a sin. The world might not think so, but God does. Reinforcing the Word is what your child needs to know. However, it is now coming from a place of love.
5. Identify them as a child loved by God. Just because your child is struggling with homosexuality does not make them gay or lesbian. They are a Christian that struggles with homosexuality just like there are Christians who struggle with cussing and gossiping. They are the beloved.
6. Get your child in a Christian community that will identify them as a child of God. Junior Highers are just starting to discover their sexuality. They might think they are homosexual, when in reality, they are just confused about all the changes going on in their body. The LGBTQ community will say this means they are gay or lesbian. They pump up the sin. However, a healthy Christian community doesn't tell people they are gay, but they are a child of God. We have seen many junior highers in our ministry who thought they might be gay come to find out they were just confused.
7. Push holiness over heterosexuality. God's desire is not that we are heterosexual, but that we are holy. Holiness means we are different than the world just like God is. Holiness means we wait for marriage (man and woman) to engage in any sexual acts or thoughts. Holiness means we don't feed off of our fleshly desires. Holiness is what leads to happiness. We don't have to act on sexual inclinations to be happy. Following God will lead to ultimate happiness. Also, it's important to keep in mind that Jesus never got married, but still lived an abundant life. Marriage isn't the goal either. Holiness always is.
8. Pray for your child. There's a chance that their homosexual feelings go away. There's a chance it'll be a lifelong fight. But we serve a God that gives us His Spirit to work in our lives. Pray that His Spirit overwhelms your child's life.